Or how to supercharge your relationship with a strong bond…
Love is a beautiful part of life and it is so much more than just a feeling or a simple ‘I love you’.
You can actively show your partner how much you care for him with just little things you can do in your relationship.
Especially when reality hits you in a relationship and a daily routine takes over the tingly lovey feeling from the beginning, it is very important to sustain a love driven attitude each day. You need to work on your love as much as everything else you care for in life.
It might not always be easy, and YES I know, us girls we love to be catered to, but believe me, it is worth going the extra mile from time to time. Not only will this help your bond to get stronger but it will also ensure your relationship doesn’t get lost along the way.
So I hope my little list of tips will help you to strengthen your love bond on a daily basis.
My favorite 26 ways to show ‘I love you’:
1. UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
There is nothing more unsexy or ignorant during dinner, a romantic couch evening or maybe even just a walk in the park, than someone who can’t let go of the cell phone. I mean seriously – how on earth does this behavior show that you care for your partner when you’re always on the phone?
2. HOLDING HANDS
This is for the old school fans, but it simply shows your affection. I love to hold my boyfriends hand and it makes me feel like a teenager every time I do it.
3. REAL DATES
No matter for how long you have been in your relationship, go on real dates with your partner – no friends, no kids, no dogs. Dress up, make a dinner reservation at a nice restaurant both of you don’t know and enjoy each others company. Maybe even change your regular underwear into something a bit more sexy… Meeeeeow!
4. COOK HIS FAVORITE MEAL
The old saying is very true: “The best way to a man’s heart is through his belly”. Not only do you take time for him to prepare something he loves, but it also shows him how much you care. Chop chop ladies!
5. WEAR SOMETHING HE LOVES THE MOST ON YOU
This is a pretty obvious tip, but sometimes it helps relighting the fire when you wear something he really enjoys seeing you in. Maybe even spice up his favorite dress with some new sexy underwear…
6. WRITE LITTLE NOTES
I do this all the time and I know he loves it: I write a little note and hide it wherever I can (his wallet, macbook or suitcase, in case he will be traveling). It doesn’t have to be a long letter it can be as simple as a little drawn out heart on a post-it note that says “I’ll miss you babe”. It’s a little supercharger for your partner and let’s them actually see how much you care.
7. SHOW GRATITUDE
I cannot emphasize this enough: show your partner that you are thankful for his support, thoughtfulness or simply the time he might have taken out of his busy schedule to be with you. No one ever wants to be taken for granted and an honest “Thank you” shows your appreciation.
8. COMPLIMENT HIM GENUINELY
Men like to be the alpha, the leader, the problem-solver, the knight, the technician, the hot stud and care taker in a relationship. It goes a long way to express your feelings for him, don’t just criticize him when he forgets to take out the trash or comes home later than expected (we all know we love to do that…). Tell him what you like, for example how much you adore his intelligence or maybe his way of taking care of things. Tell him how much you enjoyed the last time you were crazy in bed. Admiration is the key to a strong bond.
9. ASK FOR ADVICE
Allow your partner to help you and ask genuinely for advice on a matter that you might have difficulty with. I love it when I can rely on my boyfriends judgment and feedback and it makes him part of my life.
10. “HONEY, I AM BACK HOME”
In case you guys live together, say this as soon as you walk through the door. It shows your partner you care about being back home and you think of them as soon as you enter.
11. HUG HUG HUG
My favorite thing, as I love hugging and the best thing my boyfriend loves it too. So give it a try and hug your partner once he gets home. NO reason for it, just do it.
12. CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF
I have met two people in my life who were thriving of chaos in their apartment, but most people I know hate it – especially when someone else created it. So try to clean up your old laundry and put it in the dirty laundry bin, clean up the make up spills in the morning and definitely remove the pile of hair from the shower drain.
13. THE ‘TRASH’ PROBLEM
I know, I know, us ladies we sometimes expect that our men take out the trash, but whenever he does take out the trash, tell him that you appreciate it. It doesn’t hurt to say it and you should never take him or his actions to help for granted. This also works for men!
14. EXPERIENCE SOMETHING TOGETHER
Allow your relationship to grow with experiences you share together. This can be a wine tasting, a museum visit, a cooking class or even a trip together. No matter what, your bond will grow stronger through it.
15. DO SOMETHING FOR HIM THAT HE HATES
In the early stages of our relationship I was able to watch my boyfriend iron, though I might be better off calling it the ‘Battle of the Iron’. He didn’t look very happy.
I don’t necessarily love ironing, but I know it makes him happy when he wears a shirt that I ironed for him. In this case I don’t mind going out of my way to do this for him.
And this works both ways: he knows that I am not very fond of walking my dog Charlie in the dark. So he always joins me without me even asking and sometimes he even takes him for a guy walk without me. That’s what I call love on a daily basis.
16. SURPRISE YOUR PARTNER
Be creative with this one, it doesn’t have to be an expensive gift. Just ensure both of you will be able to share one hour (or more) alone, whether that might be a massage, exploring a new sexy outfit or maybe a romantic bubble bath with some candles, a bottle of white wine and take away Sushi (my favorite).
17. COFFEE / TEA IN BED
It is so romantic when you get up first and make some tea or coffee for your man while he is still in bed. I do this for my boyfriend most of the mornings and I know he loves waking up with his tea next to the bed. Try it!
18. ASK HOW HIS DAY WAS
For me it always makes me feel like my partner cares when he asks me and I am also happy when he clues me in about his day. It is not about controlling every moves he makes, but about showing your interest in his work and whatever he goes through.
19. CELEBRATE SUCCESS TOGETHER
No matter how big or small the success might be, when you talk about it and when you take time to celebrate those wins you experienced at work or sports, it will make you part of the same team and strengthens your bond.
20. TALK ABOUT YOUR DREAMS
This is not about planning your future life together. Sharing your dreams and things you want to accomplish allows both of you to get more connected. And who knows, maybe you will find a new and interesting side in him you didn’t know…
21. SEX IT UP
After a while in a relationship it is normal for the hormones and the bodily affection to tone down, but every healthy relationship needs a charged and satisfying sex life – and not just once a month. So stir up the hormones and work on your sex life, not just when you feel like it – eventually. Show your man how much you love him and how much you want to feel him. You shouldn’t just wait for it to happen – do something about it. You are part of this relationship, too.
22. PRIORITIZE YOUR LOVE
No matter what I do, my boyfriend can always reach me in case he wants or needs to. My phone is set up in a way that I can distinguish when he is calling or writing by the sound of the ringtone. It shows him that he is my priority at all times.
23. BE VULNERABLE
Now, this was a tough one for me for quite some time. I always wanted to be the independent Superwoman, who never needed a guy to help or to rely on. Well let me tell you: NO MAN I met honestly digged this kind of behavior and eventually some relationships in the past didn’t survive my manly manhood. To a lot of men this isn’t really a sexy nor desirable characteristic in a woman. Bare in mind, a man loves to be the alpha who cares for his lady. Show him your soft side, show him you would love for him to help you.
24. MAKE A STATEMENT AND WRITE A LOVE LETTER
As vintage as this sounds, it is a wonderful and completely underestimated way to show your affection and love for your significant other. Plus, a letter will always be a part of his life and he can always read it. My mom still carries a letter from my dad with her when she travels and reconnects with this ‘old’ love feeling every time.
It is usually not very easy for men to talk about their feelings, their failures or to dig deep into a heart felt talk, but when they do: listen. Don’t judge, don’t role your eyes, don’t be a ‘know it all’, just simply listen. Hear what he has to say and try to comfort him. It is that easy.
26. DON’T KEEP TRACK
Last but not least I want to emphasize the importance of not ‘keeping track’ of things, that both of you did or didn’t do for the partner. This sort of math NEVER works in your favor and will definitely not elevate the relationship to a better and more fulfilling level. Try to give and do things because you want to do them, not because you expect something in return.
So now I wonder…
What are things you enjoy doing in your relationship to make your bond grow strong?
How do you tell your partner that you love them besides from telling them?
Can’t wait for your feedback in the comment section below!
With so much love,